Sitto

Here is a compilation of
dating tips offered by metro Detroit based Chaldean Matchmaker Theresa Sitto: 

Phone Etiquette

Remember that your phone
greeting leaves an impression on your caller.

Set up that mailbox; it’s
not that hard.

Leave a clear, concise
greeting that does not include work related prompts or musical selections.
 People are busy and do not want to spend three minutes trying to leave
you a message.

If someone contacts you,
reply in a timely manner.  Not responding could be construed as not
caring.

Texts and phone calls
should be done within reason; no one wants to be on the phone all day.
 Plan a date and talk in person.

When meeting
someone or getting to know them, look for what is good about the person –
search for flaws and you will find them.  Look for the best in others and
give the best you’ve got.

Keeping
informed and taking an interest in what is going on in the world will make you
a more interesting person to be around.  Remember this quote: Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small
minds discuss people.   

Take
advantage of warmer weather to take your date on a picnic or walk and watch the
sunset.  Take some summer sports gear along and play catch, tennis,
Frisbee, football or basketball.  Activities are always more fun than just
another dinner out.  You will see a whole new side of the person and stay
fit in the process!

Take
some time to really think about three essential qualities you want in a
potential spouse.  Too often, expectations/lists are so long that no one
can fulfill them.  Additionally, note what your three best qualities are;
what do you have to offer?

When you are getting to
know a person, change up the old coffee or lunch/dinner routine and take in
some Pure
Michigan sites with your date; explore the DIA, Detroit Historical
Museum, Henry Ford/Greenfield Village, Detroit Zoo and Cranbrook.  You
will certainly have a lot more to talk about and enjoy. Take in some fall
outdoor activities in this great state of ours- take a walk in the park,
picnic, play tennis.  Activities lend themselves to good conversation.

What is an appropriate gift to give someone you are serious
about?

Girls: If it’s less than three months, card and a cute coffee mug
with quality candy or a good pen.

Over three months: Framed
photo of the two of you, or cologne.

Guys: If it’s less than three months, card, flowers and candy are
just fine.

Over three months:
flowers, candy and perfume or moderately priced earrings or
necklace.

Over six months: consider
that engagement ring!

A common request from
many clients is just to meet a person who smiles; someone who is genuinely
happy.  People want to be around pleasant individuals.  It is so easy
to complain about the weather, jobs, health and other people.  Remember,
though, that no one wants to listen to negativity all the time.  That kind
of stress affects your health and well-being.  Happy people attract happy
people.  Keep in mind, “I just want a smiley face!”

Building a relationship is
not a this for that proposition.  It doesn’t matter who called last.  Do what feels right and comfortable
for the two of you.  Usually in a relationship, there is one person who is
more creative about choosing places to go or things to do.  Keeping tabs
on who does what will get you nowhere.  You can’t expect the other person
to always think the way you do.

MATCHaldean
celebrated six years this
July.  It has been my honor and
privilege to be of service to our Chaldean community and to see results of
marriages and babies. 

Here are some things I’ve learned along the way:

Look
for shared attitudes, beliefs and values in a potential match instead of an
instant spark and a checklist.

Think
of the person you want to end up with and adjust that image.  You are not
settling, you are compromising and getting married.

There
will always be someone out there that is better, cuter, wealthier, more
educated and full of personality.  Do you wait forever for that person to
come into your life?  Have realistic expectations and you will build a
life with a spouse and family.

It’s
the things that couples do with and for each other that makes your
love grow.  Be attentive to the needs of the other.

Most
lasting relationships do not begin with instant fireworks.  That dream guy
or gal does not exist.  They are only in your dreams.  Be realistic,
be married. 

Want a
match?  Are you single and serious about finding someone to marry? Visit
www.matchaldean.com or
call Theresa Sitto at 248.758.2303. Offices in
Bloomfield Hills, Novi and Troy.  Gift certificates make great gifts for
the single, widowed or divorced people you know and are available on our
website.